Leading Others Starts With Managing Yourself

An interesting read for those in leadership and those who aspire to lead.


Keynote speaker and author helping leaders turn change into opportunity. GaryBradt.com

If you can’t manage yourself, you don’t have a prayer of effectively leading anyone else.

For instance, let’s say it’s been a stressful week, and a day at the beach sounds like the perfect solution. Only on the day you planned to go, it rains. How will you react? Will your mood darken along with the skies, and ruin the rest of your day (and everyone else’s)? Or will you quickly let go of disappointment, and suggest alternative activities for your group?

It’s a small but revealing choice. Followers are watching, and will take their cue from you. And the unexpected rain, like any unexpected or unwanted change, will dictate your experience negatively – if you let it.

Self-management is the ability to quickly scan a range of potential responses to any situation, then choosing the one that leads to preferable outcomes. It means being aware of your automatic, hair-trigger emotional response – your autopilot – and overriding it when necessary.

For example, if your autopilot response at work is to search for solutions whenever problems arise, great. But, if your autopilot response often leads to a drawn-out process of fault-finding and blame, it may be time to override.

The same principle applies at home. For example, if your one-time star student suddenly begins to struggle, does your automatic response help kick them into gear? Or does their downward slide continue, despite your best efforts? If it’s the latter, you may want to change your approach, before you once again try to change them.

Self-management requires self-reflection. It is the ability to ask “Is my response to surprising change or difficult problems obtaining the results I want?” If so, great. But if not, self-management means having the humility, and sometimes the courage, to change course.

Self-management is an acquired skill for some, and one that everyone can polish. Here are some tips for developing your self-management acumen you may find helpful:

• Think of it like the Internet of Things. Today, practically every machine and device we use daily is loaded with sensors that monitor and control their output and effectiveness. If continuous feedback can help keep

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